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assbutt-in-the-garrison:

thefaultinourserenity:

A Reddit user going by the handle “european_douchebag” posted a surreptitious photo of a Sikh woman with the caption “i’m not sure what to conclude from this.” The user’s apparent confusion stems from the fact that the woman—bound by her religion not to cut her hair or alter her body—has an abundance of dark, untrimmed facial hair. The mind of european_douchebag was SO INCREDIBLY BLOWN by the fact that women have hair on their bodies—and, yes, faces—and that some women are bold, self-assured, and pious enough not to cave to western beauty standards (and gender expectations), there was nothing for him to do but post her photo online and wait for the abuse to flood in.
But then something totally lovely and unexpected happened. The woman in the photo responded:

Hey, guys. This is Balpreet Kaur, the girl from the picture. I actually didn’t know about this until one of my friends told on facebook. If the OP wanted a picture, they could have just asked and I could have smiled :) However, I’m not embarrased or even humiliated by the attention [negative and positve] that this picture is getting because, it’s who I am. Yes, I’m a baptized Sikh woman with facial hair. Yes, I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women. However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body - it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being [which is genderless, actually] and, must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will. Just as a child doesn’t reject the gift of his/her parents, Sikhs do not reject the body that has been given to us. By crying ‘mine, mine’ and changing this body-tool, we are essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us. By transcending societal views of beauty, I believe that I can focus more on my actions. My attitude and thoughts and actions have more value in them than my body because I recognize that this body is just going to become ash in the end, so why fuss about it? When I die, no one is going to remember what I looked like, heck, my kids will forget my voice, and slowly, all physical memory will fade away. However, my impact and legacy will remain: and, by not focusing on the physical beauty, I have time to cultivate those inner virtues and hopefully, focus my life on creating change and progress for this world in any way I can. So, to me, my face isn’t important but the smile and the happiness that lie behind the face are. :-) So, if anyone sees me at OSU, please come up and say hello. I appreciate all of the comments here, both positive and less positive because I’ve gotten a better understanding of myself and others from this. Also, the yoga pants are quite comfortable and the Better Together tshirt is actually from Interfaith Youth Core, an organization that focuses on storytelling and engagement between different faiths. :) I hope this explains everything a bit more, and I apologize for causing such confusion and uttering anything that hurt anyone.

And then, THEN, something even more miraculous happened—the original poster apologized:

I know that this post ISN’T a funny post but I felt the need to apologize to the Sikhs, Balpreet, and anyone else I offended when I posted that picture. Put simply it was stupid. Making fun of people is funny to some but incredibly degrading to the people you’re making fun of. It was an incredibly rude, judgmental, and ignorant thing to post.
/r/Funny wasn’t the proper place to post this. Maybe /r/racism or /r/douchebagsofreddit or /r/intolerance would have been more appropriate. Reddit shouldn’t be about putting people down, but a group of people sending cool, interesting, or funny things. Reddit’s been in the news alot lately about a lot of cool things we’ve done, like a freaking AMA by the president. I’m sorry for being the part of reddit that is intolerant and douchebaggy. This isn’t 4chan, or 9gag, or some other stupid website where people post things like I did. It’s fucking reddit. Where some pretty amazing stuff has happened.
I’ve read more about the Sikh faith and it was actually really interesting. It makes a whole lot of sense to work on having a legacy and not worrying about what you look like. I made that post for stupid internet points and I was ignorant.
So reddit I’m sorry for being an asshole and for giving you negative publicity. Balpreet, I’m sorry for being a closed minded individual. You are a much better person than I am Sikhs, I’m sorry for insulting your culture and way of life. Balpreet’s faith in what she believes is astounding.

Holy shit, internet, I don’t even know you anymore! I never thought something would come out of the seeping necrotic abscess that is Reddit that would actually make my day better, but wow. MY HEART GREW THREE SIZES THIS DAY.
((CREDIT: HERE))

wow. kind of restores just a little bit of my faith in humanity.

assbutt-in-the-garrison:

thefaultinourserenity:

A Reddit user going by the handle “european_douchebag” posted a surreptitious photo of a Sikh woman with the caption “i’m not sure what to conclude from this.” The user’s apparent confusion stems from the fact that the woman—bound by her religion not to cut her hair or alter her body—has an abundance of dark, untrimmed facial hair. The mind of european_douchebag was SO INCREDIBLY BLOWN by the fact that women have hair on their bodies—and, yes, faces—and that some women are bold, self-assured, and pious enough not to cave to western beauty standards (and gender expectations), there was nothing for him to do but post her photo online and wait for the abuse to flood in.

But then something totally lovely and unexpected happened. The woman in the photo responded:

Hey, guys. This is Balpreet Kaur, the girl from the picture. I actually didn’t know about this until one of my friends told on facebook. If the OP wanted a picture, they could have just asked and I could have smiled :) However, I’m not embarrased or even humiliated by the attention [negative and positve] that this picture is getting because, it’s who I am. Yes, I’m a baptized Sikh woman with facial hair. Yes, I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women. However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body - it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being [which is genderless, actually] and, must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will. Just as a child doesn’t reject the gift of his/her parents, Sikhs do not reject the body that has been given to us. By crying ‘mine, mine’ and changing this body-tool, we are essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us. By transcending societal views of beauty, I believe that I can focus more on my actions. My attitude and thoughts and actions have more value in them than my body because I recognize that this body is just going to become ash in the end, so why fuss about it? When I die, no one is going to remember what I looked like, heck, my kids will forget my voice, and slowly, all physical memory will fade away. However, my impact and legacy will remain: and, by not focusing on the physical beauty, I have time to cultivate those inner virtues and hopefully, focus my life on creating change and progress for this world in any way I can. So, to me, my face isn’t important but the smile and the happiness that lie behind the face are. :-) So, if anyone sees me at OSU, please come up and say hello. I appreciate all of the comments here, both positive and less positive because I’ve gotten a better understanding of myself and others from this. Also, the yoga pants are quite comfortable and the Better Together tshirt is actually from Interfaith Youth Core, an organization that focuses on storytelling and engagement between different faiths. :) I hope this explains everything a bit more, and I apologize for causing such confusion and uttering anything that hurt anyone.

And then, THEN, something even more miraculous happened—the original poster apologized:

I know that this post ISN’T a funny post but I felt the need to apologize to the Sikhs, Balpreet, and anyone else I offended when I posted that picture. Put simply it was stupid. Making fun of people is funny to some but incredibly degrading to the people you’re making fun of. It was an incredibly rude, judgmental, and ignorant thing to post.

/r/Funny wasn’t the proper place to post this. Maybe /r/racism or /r/douchebagsofreddit or /r/intolerance would have been more appropriate. Reddit shouldn’t be about putting people down, but a group of people sending cool, interesting, or funny things. Reddit’s been in the news alot lately about a lot of cool things we’ve done, like a freaking AMA by the president. I’m sorry for being the part of reddit that is intolerant and douchebaggy. This isn’t 4chan, or 9gag, or some other stupid website where people post things like I did. It’s fucking reddit. Where some pretty amazing stuff has happened.

I’ve read more about the Sikh faith and it was actually really interesting. It makes a whole lot of sense to work on having a legacy and not worrying about what you look like. I made that post for stupid internet points and I was ignorant.

So reddit I’m sorry for being an asshole and for giving you negative publicity.
Balpreet, I’m sorry for being a closed minded individual. You are a much better person than I am
Sikhs, I’m sorry for insulting your culture and way of life.
Balpreet’s faith in what she believes is astounding.

Holy shit, internet, I don’t even know you anymore! I never thought something would come out of the seeping necrotic abscess that is Reddit that would actually make my day better, but wow. MY HEART GREW THREE SIZES THIS DAY.

((CREDIT: HERE))

wow. kind of restores just a little bit of my faith in humanity.


thespacegoat:

the fact women are viewed as being more sexy at 15 than 40 is the creepiest thing in the world


alyssmirari:

My skin remains smooth even with hair on it. Growing hair on your body doesn’t mean you’re going to suddenly start developing rough, reptilian skin. 


gallifreyglo:

alyssmirari:

"I do it for me"

Oh really? You know, I do wonder how likely it would have been for you to have begun shaving off natural body hair if you hadn’t been informed from day one that natural hair on women is “gross” and that this was the beauty standard to aspire to.

The “I do it…

I think the OP was trying to say… If you did not have an experience like that… If there wasn’t such a huge societal push to do it (to avoid being labeled ugly or dirty or gross) would you really be doing it?

I wonder too because a lot of girls/women experience low grade anxiety when their hairs start to grow in even a little. That doesn’t sound like “doing it for me” that sounds like straight up “they’re all going to laugh at me and won’t like me anymore!” panic and we don’t unpack that… We just know we “feel better” when shaved. We don’t examine why.

Just as a reminder, before razor companies started advertising to women in the west and eventually around the world, women happily went unshaven. They weren’t shamed for having body hair. And the impact of porn cannot be overstated as well.


benditlikebeckhamsadnessblog:

pop-rocks-blowjob:

cbt-40:

Like this if you’re a hairy-hairy girl not a cosmopolitan magazine light bleached barely there hairy girl cause I don’t care for you. Like this if you’re hairy-hairy.

I just think girls are super cool like whattup. Hairy? Barely there hairy? Bare-ey? You’re all so super cool and expressive of your womanhood and your body choices and that’s so cool go you

Uh did we ask tho


yodaearsaremyfavorite said: Holy shit I was actually one of the ppl who asked for tachenoir OMG IM SO HAPPY FOR HER AND I HAVE A LITTLE OF HOPE FOR MYSELF AS WELL DAMN

I knooww, tachenoir is an inspiration to us all!

inlifesansawins:

why is it

"no boy will want you if you keep on with that feminist rubbish"

and not

"no girl will want you if you keep on being a misogynistic piece of shit"


tachenoir-deactivated20140730 said: Hi, I just made a post on my blog about how I told my boyfriend about the hair. A few weeks ago I asked you for advice and I totally forgot to tell you how it went.

I’m so glad to hear back from you! I just saw your post and well done!! I’m happy for you, you should feel so proud of yourself that was such an achievement! Enjoy the rest of your summer x

tachenoir:

A few weeks ago I messaged hirsuteandcute telling her I was going to show my “problem” to my boyfriend, and I totally forgot to tell her how it went and I saw some girls were actually asking about it.

We were in bed, doing stuff, and when he tried to take off my shirt I panicked. I fucking…

Omg well done! I’m so happy for you, your boyfriend sounds like such an awesome guy. A+ to you for wearing whatever you want!


Anonymous said: Me and my wife (I'm a guy) agree with everything you said about pubic hair. We think the reason why shaving is very popular is porn, which started doing it b/c it allows more exposure and makes everything even more explicit. It also gives a "barely legal teen" look to the actresses, which is popular, unfortunately. The consequence is that husbands and boyfriends started asking for it, the cosmetic industry caught on, and now is standard to many people, but not to us: we both don't shave.

Yesss that’s what I’m saying!! So often in porn shaved actresses are used to give the ambiguously underage jailbait look and it creeps me out so much, like it’s so infantilizing. Fortunately I’ve never been asked to remove any of mine before but if anyone did ask me they’d be getting kicked the fuck out. The fact that men think it’s an appropriate request let alone expectation is beyond messed up to me and I wouldn’t do it. Good on you and your wife for accepting yourselves as you are!

biglittleprincess:

Shout out to all of the brown girls whose first time shaving wasn’t a joyful step into womanhood, but an occasion marked by the shame and grief of coming home from school and begging your mom to let you do it because the kids at school wouldn’t stop pointing and laughing


Anonymous said: thank you so much for having such a amazing blog. I'm 14 going onto 15 and I'm obviously going through puberty. I am pretty hairy on my arm, stomach and other areas like on my face some people have noticed and have made comments telling me about the hair like I didn't already know it was there. I come from a very European background so my my hair is dark. I have aways been self conscious over it even when I was young and I thought it wasn't normal to be like this but you showed me it is

Thank you anon! I’m so glad that I was able to help in some way, it means alot :) You should be so proud of yourself for starting to accept your body and realising that you are in no way alone and it’s so common and normal! Thank you for your message x

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